Marcelo in the Real World by Francisco X. Stork

If you were to go into a bookstore to find Marcelo in the Real World, it would be shelved in the young adult section and while it is an excellent choice for young readers, (receiving 15 awards since its publication in 2009) it is also a story that will touch adult hearts and keep them turning pages to see how a 17-year old deals with a moral crisis that deeply affects the adults in his world.

As author Sara Zarr, a National Book Award Nominee, says so well, “Marcelo in the Real World is a mesmerizing coming-of-age story in the realest sense—leaving the Eden of an extended childhood and slowly awakening to the knowledge of good and evil both outside and within.  Marcelo’s voice is at once innocent and knowing and the challenges he faces compelling. There were moments that made me feel as though I was seeing the world for the first time and along with Marcelo, wondering how it is to be endured.”

Marcelo Sandoval is a high-functioning, extremely self-aware teenager (17) with Asperger’s syndrome.  He has led an ordered and protected existence in a Boston suburb with his empathetic mother, a nurse, and his high power attorney father. He attends a special private school, Paterson, where he takes courses in social interaction and works with therapy ponies.   He loves Paterson.

But his father, Arturo, an ambitious Mexican-American who was top of his Harvard Law class, thinks Marcelo needs skills to survive in the “real world”.   He strikes a deal with him the summer before his senior year:  If Marcelo can follow the “rules of the real world” by working in the mailroom of the firm’s hectic office, he will allow Marcelo to return to his safe-harbor school for his senior year.  If he fails, he must attend the public high school.   The challenge is set and what happens that summer sets in motion a series of events that neither father nor son could have foreseen.

Marcelo’s inspiring and brave journey into the real world endears him to readers and in first-person narrative we are invited into his thought process which is so different, both innocent yet wise.  Seeing the world through his eyes is one of the beauties of this story and we can feel both his anguish and his wonderment of the challenges life is now presenting him.  The New York Times Review aptly describes his voice as one of “heartbreaking honesty.”

Marcelo is forced to think on his feet, multi-task and deal with deceptive people who try to take advantage of him, such as Wendell, the sex-obsessed son of his father’s slime-ball legal partner. He learns about competition, jealousy, anger and desire. But it’s a photograph of a girl with half a face that truly connects him with the real world of suffering.  Empathy for her is the stirring of his emotional coming-of-age and he is compelled to solve the mystery behind the face.  His moral compass is then tested as much as his social coping skills when he uncovers a piece of suppressed evidence in a case involving his father’s biggest corporate client.  

With the help of Jasmine, the beautiful mailroom employee who has taken him under her wing, Marcelo struggles to find the courage to do the right thing at the risk of betraying his father.  And it is Jasmine’s inner goodness that is a striking contrast to the ugliness Marcelo has encountered in the real world. 

Favorable comparisons have been made between Marcelo and Christopher Boone, the protagonist in The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night (Doubleday 2003) where both voices have an appealing blend of naïveté and wisdom. 

Like Marcelo’s father, author Francisco X. Stork is also has of Hispanic descent and a practicing attorney in Boston.  He was educated at Harvard and Columbia Law School and has written several books for young adults.  And like Marcelo, he is still striving to find his “uniqueness”.  He writes on his blog: “Writing for me is the best tool for that... and so I write for young people...to humbly walk beside them toward the discovery of our true self and the unique gift each one of us has received.”

I consider Marcelo in the Real World a true gift to readers.

Advice I would give to a newlywed...or anyone who likes to entertain on a moment's notice..or whoever want to serve something that looks hard to make, but is really easy.  Keep Pillsbury crescent rolls in your frig at all times.  Pillsbury makes life easy....a package of crescent rolls, a little egg wash ...voila!

Sausage Crescent Bread

1/2 lb. Italian turkey sausage (or regular Italian for more robust flavor if you don't care about fat content)
1 9- oz box frozen spinach, thawed, drained and squeezed as dry as possible
1 cup fat free cottage cheese, drained (or a mix of cottage cheese and feta for stronger flavor)
1/2 cup grated Parmesan cheese
1 teaspoon minced garlic
1 8 oz. can Pillsbury Refrigerated crescent dinner rolls
3 slices provolone cheese
3 slices mozzarella cheese

Heat over to 375 degrees
Brown sausage and drain grease
In large bowl combine sausage, spinach, cottage cheese, Parmesan cheese and garlic

Unroll dough into one large rectangle on ungreased cookie sheet and press into 13/x8 in rectangle. Firmly press perforations and seams to seal.

Spoon sausage mixture in 4 in strip lengthwise down center of rectangle.  Top with slices of provolone and mozzarella.

With scissors or sharp knife, make cuts l-inch apart on long sides of dough rectangle to within 1/2 inch of sausage mixture.  Fold strips of dough up over sausage mixture to meet in center; pinch to seal.

Brush top of pastry with raw egg wash.

Bake at 375 degrees for 18-24 minutes or until golden brown. Remove from cookie sheet and cut into crosswise slices. Serve warm.  Enjoy...both the braid
( and all the compliments you will receive.)

ps filling made more than I could fit into the braid.I think there is enough filling for two packages of crescent rolls...you'd need to double up on the 3 cheese slices you place on top however.

When you see the photo of Ann Patchett on the book jacket of her latest book, State of Wonder, it’s hard to believe someone so lovely and feminine could write a book describing some horrific images.  I guess that is the power of imagination and skillful writing which she has proven in her previous books, most notably Bel Canto. (2001 Winner of PEN/Faulkner Award).

The main character in State of Wonder is Dr. Marina Singh, a 42-year old research scientist who does what has been described as “unremarkable” cholesterol research for a large pharmaceutical company in Eden Prairie, Minnesota. She is also having an affair with the company’s CEO, Mr. Fox, who comes across as bland as her tedious research.  In the opening paragraph, Mr. Fox informs Marina that her research assistant, Anders Eckman, has died mysteriously in a remote part of Brazil. Eckman was sent  there to report on the progress being made by Dr. Swenson in her quest for a fertility drug that could make the company billions.

After Marina and Mr. Fox visit Eckman’s widow to tell her of her husband’s death, (by way of a very brief letter and no explanation) Marina, with great trepidation, succumbs to Mr. Fox’s request that she go to Brazil to determine how Eckman died.  The widow’s plea for an explanation and the sight of his three small boys, as well as concern for her former research partner, causes Marina to accept the assignment she feels totally unsuited for. And with that her unremarkable life takes a twist and turn she could never have imagined.

In a small tributary of the Amazon, the state of wonder kicks in as she begins a vivid and emotional trip.  Actually, even sooner as her plane lands, Marina imagines that “every insect in the Amazon lifted its head from the leaf it was masticating and turned a slender antenna in her direction.” As one reviewer comments, “Ms. Patchett’s true genius is her ability to write about situations that truly stretch incredibility but you end up believing every word.”

In order to understand the circumstances of Eckman’s death, Marina must first find Dr.Swenson and here a sub-plot develops. We discover that Marina and Dr. Swenson have a history dating back to Marina’s medical school days—a traumatic history Marina has tried to forget but now it resurfaces with a vengeance.  Dr. Swenson does not welcome any visitors but she comes to trust Marina with her closely guarded research of  the Lakashi tribe in which women continue to ovulate until their death, producing children well into their 60’s and 70’s.  Patchett’s natives are only semi-human; they don’t possess civilized language but make sounds less like words and more like the call and answer of fish.  But deep in the jungle we finally discover the secret of their fertility—a visual image that may continue to haunt you long after you read the book.

Meanwhile, not far up the river in another tributary is the tribe of sinister cannibals who present yet another threat....as if the cloud of insects, snake-infested rivers and malarial swamps are not frightening enough.  The suffocating atmosphere is integral to the story where the jungle could be considered a character in itself.

This has been called a novel of darkness to light as Marina tries to find answers for Eckman’s family while navigating her inner personal journey with as many twists and turns as the Amazon itself.  If you like adventure, something out of the ordinary and great escape this might be the book for you.

Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love praises Patchett, saying, “Her moral code after all thrums throughout her novels—where characters are often called upon to summon up their decency, take a bold action and shift forever some stale old paradigm of power.”   Marina certainly achieves that in State of Wonder.

Ms. Patchett lives in Nashville Tennessee where she is co-owner of  Parnassus Books.  For more information and a list of all her books, visit www.annpatchett.com

If you’re looking for a new author with a continuing mystery series, you might consider Canadian Louise Penny. She creates a fascinating world in the fictional setting of Three Pines, a rural Canadian village south of Montreal, just kilometers from the Vermont border. 

As Penny describes it, “The tiny fieldstone houses were built by the early settlers who cleared the land and yanked the stones from the earth. But most of the homes around the village green were made of rose-hued brick, built by the United Empire Loyalists fleeing the American Revolution, desperate for a sanctuary, hiding from a war they didn’t believe it.”  Named for the three stately pines in the center of the village, present day Three Pines of her novels appears idyllic with no police force, no traffic lights, no sidewalks, no mayor.  The place doesn’t have ordinary crime...just the worst possible crime... murder ...and on quite a regular basis.

The first murder to shatter the inhabitants of Three Pines occurs in Still Life, first book in her series (2005) which won numerous prestigious awards, such as The New Blood Dagger, the Arthur Ellis, the Anthony, the Barry Award and Dilys Award.

It is here that where we meet the interesting residents and characters who continue to evolve in future books.  Artist Peter who is often struggling with jealousy...not of a lover, but the with realization that his wife Clara may be the true artist in the family, Myrna who runs the used bookstore, Sarah and her delicious Boulangarie, Ruth Zardo, the poet who is always good for a laugh with her inappropriate comments and insults and Bistro owners, Gabri and Olivier.  (Caution: if you read all eight books straight through you will probably add a few inches to your waistline as the descriptive meals coming out of the bistro are tantalizing).  Hungry or not, your taste buds will be awakened. For example, fettuccine with shrimps and scallops sautéed in garlic and olive oil or a rich cheddar and apple soup, or a fruit-stuffed Rock Cornish game hen, done on the spit, or the seafood buffet with herring roe on kelp, pepper-smoked salmon, crab cakes, halibut, with bread fresh from the boulangerie. It appears that crime solving in Three Pines involves a lot of pondering over café de lait and warm croissants. 

And that brings us to Chief Inspector Armund Gamache of the Surete du Quebec and his unique approach to solving a murder.  “To catch a killer, you don’t necessarily move forward...you move back. Into the past. That is where the crime begins.  Some event, perhaps long forgotten by everyone else, has lodged inside the murderer.  And begun to fester. What kills can’t be seen...it’s not a gun, a knife or a fist. It’s an emotion. Rancid, spoiled, gone wild and waiting for a chance to strike.”  As Gamache tries to uncover the source of that emotion, he befriends the villagers who often supply more evidence than fingerprints or DNA.  Gamache, of course, has his own demons and fears.  As his assistant Beauvoir says, it is because of his own human frailties that Gamache is able to recognize them in others.

On a deeper level, the crime provides a means for Penny's unusually empathic, all-too-fallible lead to unearth truths about human passions and weaknesses while avoiding simple answers.

I had the pleasure of meeting Louise Penny about six years ago as she was promoting one of he early books at the Poisoned Pen Bookstore in Scottsdale. She is charming and genuine, often with self-deprecating humor which perhaps explains one of the reasons she is able to create and develop such fascinating three-dimensional characters. As one reviewer says, “The books go beyond just being murder mysteries and become more about how we interact with each other and how we deal with things like ambition, fear, love and death.”  And I might add there’s some very funny stuff and clever dialogue too.

Now, eight books into the series  she never disappoints but seems to become a more skillful writer with each book. Perhaps this quote from her daily blog (which I recommend to anyone who wants to write as she laboriously details her process), explains why she continues to receive accolades and awards with each book:

“There are times when I'm in tears writing. Not because I'm so moved by my own writing, but out of gratitude that I get to do this. In my life as a journalist I covered deaths and accidents and horrible events, as well as the quieter disasters of despair and poverty. Now, every morning I go to my office, put the coffee on, fire up the computer and visit my imaginary friends, Gamache and Beauvoir and Clara and Peter. What a privilege it is to write.”

And what a privilege it is for us the readers to enjoy this Three Pines world Penny has created.

Her titles in the order they are published are as follows:

Still Life  2005

A Fatal Grace  2007

The Cruelest Month  2008

The Brutal Telling    2009

A Rule Against Murder  2009

Bury Your Dead    2010

A Trick of Light    2011

The Beautiful Mystery 2012 (August 28 release)

Although each book can be read on its own as a mystery, I recommend starting with the first one to fully understand and appreciate the development of the recurring characters.

If you like Downton Abby,you might enjoy the Maise Dobbs series.  

The wonderful thing about discovering an author you enjoy who writes a series is the anticipation of the next book...just knowing that as you turn the last page there is another good book on the horizon.  And if you discover them after the series has been around a while, you can eagerly go from one book to the next with the characters you have come to love.

There are many popular and familiar series with recurring main characters for every taste.

Sue Grafton’s Kinsley Millhone in the alphabet series, beginning with A is for Alibi;  Lee Child’s Jack Reacher; James Patterson’s Alex Cross and The Women’s Murder Club; Janet Evanovich’s Stephanie Plum; Patricia Cornwall’s Chief Medical Examiner, Kay Scarpetta; and Alexander McCall Smith’s Mma Precious Ramotswe in #1 Ladies Detective Agency—the list goes on and I am sure you have other favorites also.

This review is dedicated to two authors we don’t seem to hear as much about although I suspect we will as their books continue to receive literary awards too numerous to mention, as well as appearing on prestigious best-seller lists, such as the New York Times:  Jacqueline Winspear’s Maise Dobbs series and Louise Penny’s stories of life in the rural village of Three Pines with Inspector Chief Armand Gamache of the Surete du Quebec. 

Both series are classified as mysteries, but they are so much more as they

delve into human nature, creating psychologically sound dramas with very real characters.  One critic writes, “When a mystery excels in the three P’s—plot, people and prose—it is a winner”.   I assume by “people” he refers not only secondary characters but foremost we must like and respect the main recurring character...the sleuth so to speak...enough to hang out with them repeatedly. And in a good series, this character has their own demons to conquer as well as cases to solve.

Maise Dobbs is a psychologist and Investigator in London, but she began her working life at the age of thirteen as a servant in a Belgravia mansion, where her employer discovered her reading in the library.  Fearing dismissal, she was instead rewarded for her knowledge quest with educational support from her employer and a family friend Dr. Maurice Blanche, revered for his work with Scotland Yard. 

Soon after Maise’s commencement from college, the Great War (1914-1918) intervenes and she enlists for nursing services overseas.  Her experiences in the war resurface in each of her nine books to date, revealing her great compassion and insight into the many sorrowful legacies of World War I. As Maise discovers, “the aftershocks of war can last for many years for those who fight and for the people who love them.”

There are currently nine books in the Maise Dobb’s series spanning the years 1929 to 1933 in England.  I suggest starting with the first, entitled simply Maise Dobbs, as it gives us Maise’s background, which is critical to every story and lays the groundwork for how she deals with people and situations as she solves cases.  It also establishes her personal relationships with her father and also her mentor Maurice who play significant roles as she evolves into the woman she is becoming.

The Great War plays a role in each book:  (in order of publication)

Maise Dobbs. Maise’s first assignment, a seemingly tedious inquiry involving a case of suspected infidelity, takes her not only on the trail of a killer, but back to the war she has tried so hard to forget.

Birds of a Feather.   Maise is hired to find a run-a-way heiress and discovers a connection with a murder she is also trying to solve. This book gives a moving picture of of the post-war despair that hovered over England during the “lost generation” era.

Pardonable Lies takes Maise to France where she reunites with a friend who lost three brothers in the Great War, including one who has an intriguing connection to her current case. She has been hired by a dying mother, Ms. Lawton, who never accepted that her aviator son was killed in the war.

Messenger of Truth.  London 1931. A famed artist, Nick Bassington-Hope, a WWI veteran, falls to his death, but his twin sister hires Maise to prove it was not an accident.  Once again we see a society struggling to recollect itself after the war.

An Incomplete Revenge evokes England between the wars when the old world crumbles and new horizons beckon working women like Maise. With the country in the grip of economic malaise, Maisie Dobbs is relieved to accept an apparently straightforward assignment to investigate a potential land purchase. Her inquiries take her to a picturesque village in Kent during the hop-picking season, but beneath its pastoral surface she finds evidence that something is amiss.

Among the Mad.  Christmas Eve 1931. Maise is in a race against time to track down a mad man before he inflicts destruction on thousands.

The Mapping of Love and Death. The parents of a cartographer killed in World War I, hire Maise to find the young man’s lover and possibly his killer, as evidence points to his having been murdered shortly before the dugout collapsed. The only clue: love letters signed “The English Nurse”.

A Lesson in Secrets.  As storm clouds of World War II gather on the horizon in the summer of 1932, a pivotal chapter in Maise’s life foreshadows new challenges and powerful enemies facing her as she goes undercover to solve a campus murder and monitor activities “not in the interests of his Majesty’s Government.”

Elegy for Eddy. The most recent novel takes Maise back to her working class neighborhood to solve a murder where she uncovers lies and manipulation on a national scale. 

Although the plots themselves are interesting, I think what makes Maise an appealing sleuth is her unique style.  She solves crimes because she listens; she mimics body posture to get a sense of what people are feeling; and she uses empathy to build trust. As she solves each case, trying to unravel the mysteries of human nature, she of course learns much about herself as well.  We see her evolving with the passage of time also.

If this time period  (England 1914-1933) is of particular interest to you, visit Winspear’s website at www.jacquelinewinspear.com and click  Blog on left-hand side.  There are numerous fascinating historical references to England and the Great War.  For example, Winspear writes, “750,000 young men were killed in Britain alone, 1,350,000 severely wounded and over 200,000 profoundly shell-shocked. And after the war, two million women of marriageable age for whom there was little chance of finding a partner to share life and have a family, were considered surplus.”

And, if you are among the many Downton Abby fans, I think the Maise Dobbs series will appeal to you.  Same country, same time period. Winspear’s novels are meticulously researched, appealing to history buffs as well as to fans of stories that center on the polite, well-mannered British.  What better time to delve into British history as we prepare to watch the London Olympics.

Next month I will review Louise Penny’s mystery series, introduce you to Inspector Gamache and acquaint you with the charming people in Three Pines, a rural village in Quebec.  First in her series is Still Life and Louise writes a daily blog about her life in Canada and her writing process.  Just Google Louise Penny to find her official website where there will be a link to her Blog.

Another bonus:  If you come to care for these two authors as I did, you can meet them personally as they both visit the Poisoned Pen Bookstore in Scottsdale on a regular basis, usually once a year as their new books are released.  Winspear is attractive and intelligent giving presentations like a mini course in history and psychology.  Louise Penny is as warm and witty as many of the characters she creates.

If you have a favorite series to recommend, I would love to hear about it. Please send me an email at:  vyarmour@gmail.com

Paddle Boards and Brownie Badges

There’s a saying, ‘Surround yourself with the kind of people you’d like to be like”.

I’d like to be like the four ladies in the photo for many reasons.

As I sat on the beach on Coronado Island (walking distance from Deb’s house) with the lame excuse that someone had to capture their paddle boarding adventure on film) they braved the experience of paddle boarding in Glorietta Bay all the way to and under the San-Diego Coronado bridge (3 of them for the first time).

Their willingness to jump out of their comfort zone  (and in a few cases into some very cold and deep water) reminded me that life is to be lived with joy....to try new things even when we are not sure of the outcome.

It also reminded me how much I value their friendship. 

Our meeting in Coronado at Deb Kaller’s home (gracious hostess) was under the guise of a “book discussion”.  We did discuss Half Broke Horses by Jeannette Walls for about 10 minutes but we discussed everything else under the sun the entire three days. 

From the airport the five of us made a stop at the Farmer’s Market in San Diego and stocked up on beautiful veggies for healthy but delicious meals. We played tennis, we ate, we walked, a few of us got massages, we ate, we played games on our Iphones with each other as we sat across the table, (games I think that were meant to be played with people not in the same room) we ate, we talked.  Did I mention wine?  Yes, wine and Mimosas for Saturday brunch which was a lovely frittata by Deb.

And in one of those serendipity moments, we stumbled onto a community theatre that had a play that night about five women called Brownie Points. In a nutshell it was about 5 mothers who are chaperoning a Brownie outing / sleepover in the Georgia woods.  Of course there is conflict among the women—some control issues—but as the play evolved the message was that only when we truly open ourselves to others can we be accepted for who we really are.  When we let go of the titles, the roles, the personas we think we should be does the real and often more lovable self shine through.

I thought about the play a lot the last few days and realized that that is perhaps the very reason our time together at Coronado was so special (and every time we get together).  There is a trust that we can be ourselves...no need to impress or prove anything.  In fact, perhaps the opposite as we expose our vulnerabilities.  Some of our most laughable moments on the patio where we lingered over each meal with talk, talk, talk (did I mention wine?)  were  “My worst dinner party, the first Thanksgiving dinner I cooked that was a disaster”—you get the gist.

Carol Burnett said humor is tragedy plus time.  Perhaps enough time had passed that we could laugh about these events, but there is a closeness that comes from sharing such moments.  And a more special bond when they honestly rejoice in your present day successes as well.  Those friendships are to be nourished and treasured.

But getting back to what I admire most about these 4 ladies (and keeping with the Brownie Points theme).  I’d like to award some lifetime badges:

To Deb:  Achievement Badge. In the years I have known Deb I see her applying 100% to whatever she takes on—she strives to master it.  Ceramics, swimming, golf to name just a few.  Also a Health Badge as she prepares healthy but deliciously creative meals.  I’m not sure what to call the 3rd badge...something like Minimalist. Her home is lovely with no clutter, clean lines, and the result is a relaxing haven which she so graciously shares.  She has made me aware of the beauty of simplicity.

To Wendy-The Multi-Task Badge. Raised on a farm in Kansas, Wendy can be the poster child for how 4-H prepares a person for life. She is the most capable person I know. She drives the huge motor home with ease and confidence, can fly an airplane, or whip up 30 pairs of pajamas for ranch employees on short notice.  She can organize groups to take action and her level head is the one I would want around in any type of emergency.  She has earned the Generosity Badge as she shares whatever she has freely and lovingly. And those who know Wendy realize Parker is the shining example of what can be accomplished if one believes that there are no limitations to what a person can achieve.  Believe It, Do It Badge.

To Dianne:  The Humble and Creativity Badge. Her photography, her quilts, and beautiful craft projects have been shared with so many yet she seems unaware of how talented she is.  How many babies are the lucky recipients of the “I Spy” quilt where they first discover bright colors and objects.  A Laughter Badge is definitely hers as she always finds the humor in life and often at her own expense.

I would also award a badge called Priorities in Order as she gave up a good career and the dollars associated with it to raise three outstanding children.  A good return on her investment I would say.

To Mary:  I give Mary the Best Preserved Award...she’s the one at your high school reunion who gets the “aged the least” award... and when our book group had our “prom night” where we tried on old prom dresses and even our wedding gowns, Mary’s was the only one that still zipped.  You want to hate someone like that but you can’t because Mary also gets the Just So Darn Nice Badge..it must be that good Midwestern Iowa upbringing.  She also gets the “Best Grandmother Badge” flying back and forth to Minnesota when needed on a moment’s notice.  And talk about need, Mary is your 2 AM friend...the kind you could call at 2 AM and know she would be there for you...whatever the reason, no questions asked, no explanation needed.   Dependable Badge.

I never imagined twenty some years ago when Pageturners Book Club started (now 200+ books later-- some great, some lemons) that it was never really about the books...it was about the ladies who read them.  We discussed a lot of interesting women in our books, but none as fascinating as those who discussed them.

At the end of the three days, we  hug goodbye, send each other back to our normal lives—to husbands, children, parents, co-workers who need us...to life’s challenges....and to create more stories to share at our next girl’s weekend.  But we leave with a renewed sense of Life is Good.

I can’t imagine life without books or girlfriends. How wonderful to get both in one package....or should I say Badge?

Cousin Lillian

We’re never too old to have a role model, nor can our role models ever be too old.  My newest goal is to be like my cousin Lillian, from Laguna Beach, who just spent the night with me when she came to work in Phoenix for a few days.

Lillian has been a nurse for, I would guess, 54 years and at age 75 she is still at it...going strong.  She flew in yesterday, got her rental car and although I met her at the airport to ride to my house with her, there was never any doubt she could have found it on her own. She travels with her portable GPS, but her internal GPS radiates a spirit of confidence. 

After a late evening where we laughed and talked about our childhood memories, she was up at 5:00 am...well, let me clarify. She asked me to wake her at 5 but when I went to do so, she was already up and preparing for her day.  Donned her white nurse’s uniform and packed up for what would probably be an hour commute in rush traffic to the west side of Phoenix where she would begin conducting eye exams at 8 am.

Vibrant and energetic with no signs of slowing down, she is exactly the type of professional. person you would want in any medical situation...emergency or routine.

But none of this should be a surprise to me.  As a child growing up, I would spend some of my summer vacation at her home in Pennsylvania where her family owned a bakery and hotel. Everyone worked. (They lived above the bakery and what a wonderful smell to wake up to each morning.) She in turn would visit us in Gary, Indiana with summer day trips to the beach on Lake Michigan.  Four years older than me, I looked up to her then... and still do. 

Lillian says her mother was a strong and determined woman (or as she puts it...a pistol) for her day, so she comes by this confidence quite naturally.  I’m sure she witnessed a strong role model on a daily basis.

And I owe a great debt to her mother too.  In 1934, she arranged my mother and father’s marriage...yes, Pandora (Lillian’s mother) thought they would be a good match.  She introduced them and they married ten days later.  (Although there was no Facebook or Twitter involved, I guess you could say this was the first instance of  Speed Dating?) Did Pandora get it right? I guess so...their marriage lasted 43 years until my father passed away.

But what was even more remarkable to me was the story I heard just a few years ago.  Pandora drove my mother from Pittsburgh to Gary (near Chicago) approx 500 miles in one day – remember this is 1934 –to meet my father’s family. In fact, the marriage was all arranged and they were greeted at the front door by my grandmother, Vaska, who welcomed Pandora with these words.  “Thank you for bringing us a bride.”

So even without a GPS, Pandora found her way... and her actions are still showing us still on this earth the way to live life....with courage, determination and a sense of adventure.  Thank you Pandora for choosing my parents... and thank you Lillian for continuing to inspire me.

You could be a poster woman for the saying, “I’d rather wear out than rust out.”